I need help.

TLARMA
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Posted by TLARMA

on Jul 13, 2006

(last modified on Jul 14, 2006)

I am in debt greatly.  This debt is from unexpected expenses.  I can no longer pay my bills as they have gotten way out of reach.  I am nearly $25,000 in debt and need help.  I am 29 years old and I am married to a wonderful man.  We have a 6 year old daughter.  I have taken this burden of debt upon myself and have paid these debts with my credit card, because I did not want to worry him about these expenses.  They have gotten out of control and I need help.  I cannot tell my husband.  He will feel betrayed and lose all trust and faith in me.  I have tried ways to make money, but they have all failed.  I cannot get a job, because we have only one car and there is no public transportation available where I live.  I live in the rural country outside of the city.  I do not know what to do.  I am getting sick and losing weight.  This is on my mind constantly.  I need help.  Do you know anybody who can help me with my debt.  I am embarrased to write this letter, but I have no choice.  I have spoken to my mom, but she has ignored my situation.  Please help me somebody.  I am serious, I need help, I do not know what else to do. I do not want to lose my husband and daughter.

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3. ekikaseven posted on Mar 6, 2008
 in response to Heartsick...   

You stated:

'Whatever!  We make about $2,000.00 a month, for a family of four, that's hardly enough.  Our bills are almost half of that.'

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Since your bills come to almost one-half of your salaries (which comes to about $1,000), then that mean that you have $1,000 dollars left.  Could you pay your credit card bill out of that $1,000 she has left?

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2. Heartsick posted on Mar 6, 2008

I know how you feel.  I have $29,000 in credit card debt too.  My husband and two daughters and I live with  my mother because we're too poor to move out.  We're on one income, my husband works at a job he hates.  This debt and pressure on my husband is killing our marriage.  We've tried credit counseling but it's not helping.  We're barely scraping by each month.  I don't know what to do anymore.  We can't live like this and maintain a healthy family or marriage.  Living with my mom is nice because there's no rent but it is really hard on our marriage. 

We just want to be debt free and able to save some money, to have our own lives, to do what we dream of doing.  We've even tried bankruptcy but the lawyers told us we weren't eligible because we make too much money!  Whatever!  We make about $2,000.00 a month, for a family of four, that's hardly enough.  Our bills are almost half of that.

Is there anyone out there that can help us? 

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1. TheHighQueen posted on Mar 3, 2007

25k is alot of money, but it definately could be worse. I competely understand you not wanting to tell your husband... however... he will be even more upset if he dosn't find out until it is too late. If I were you, I would tell him. You can't hide it forever and maybe he knows something that might help. In the mean time, focus not on what you can't do... but what you CAN do. Do you have any talents or trades that might bring in money? Do you like to sew or paint or something, anything at all? Make a list and see what you can do with it, if you have internet (which you must to write this) you have many many resources to make money, even if it isn't alot. Sell a craft on ebay,... write greeting cards for small company. Other then that, see about what jobs you might find without transportation.. paper delivery? A local conveinent store ect. Check your local paper for help wanted ads or even ideas. Lastly, take care of yourself. Eat, sleep and take a walk outside or meditate if you have to. You cannot remedy your situation if you are weak and sick and cause MORE bills. Good luck!

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